DR. MICHELLE COHEN: There is another kind
of body language that's very important to
remember especially if you're in interviews
or trying to make a good impression on someone.
It's called "relaxed and confident body language."
And as in the word relaxed, you are going
to show that you are relaxed. You're not going
to be slouching as in boredom or sleepiness.
You're going to be sitting up straight but
you're relaxed. Usually, your legs are not
crossed. You can have maybe your ankles cross
behind you. Open gestures are great like we
discussed a little bit earlier. You have your
hand maybe on the side of the chair or on
your leg, but you're relaxed. You're looking
at that person and movements are always slow
when you're relaxed. Eye contact is really
important, not glaring at someone, just keeping
your eyes straight at them. Gentle smiles
are also really important, nodding slowly.
And also when you're trying to express relaxed
body, you use your hands like this, gently.
You never use this. You never use this. It's
always as a matter of fact. So, you're nodding
your head sometimes. You're looking directly
at the person. Your body is open. It's relaxed.
And again, you can use this in job interviews,
when you're meeting someone for the first
time, any kind of new social situation, or
on a blind date. You were really trying to
make a good impression and trying to say,
"I'm not a nervous person. I'm not uncomfortable."
These are the things you can do if you are
feeling that way.